Denim Peplum Fabulosity!!!

Hi, fabulous ladies...

 

It has been a while I must say. It feels good to be back again after so many events happening eversince I wrote my last post. Easter was good and immediately after that my FABULOUS aunt died. It was a huge shock and pain to my entire family. She has been buried this previous weekend and her funeral service was great. "May her soul restin peace".

 

Just before easter I was cornered by my friend at MrPrice when we saw a denim short in the plus size section. She was questioning, when will I start wearing denim pants and shorts as I stopped wearing them seven years ago because I felt too big and ugly one morning.

 

So, my answer to her was: I'll consider going back in them jeans and other pant stuff when I feel its the right time and she quickly told me that: if I dont challenge myself right at that moment, the right time will never come because all I have is fear of unknown.

 

I had to take up this challenge not only because I wanted to prove to her I look good in anything but to prove to myself that I am a changed person now compared to that morning when I lacked a good frame of mind and was overly negative towards myself. Right now, I love myself regardless of my skin rolls and my fat bum and thighs. I dont care what the next person thinks about me because all I know is that we are all imperfect humans and we all have issues with ourselves one way or the other.

 

It is a pity that my issue of being overweight is obvious to everyone as a result some people tend to judge before trying to get to know me. Others are lucky enough to walk up and down the streets and get appreciated from far only because they have slim body frames but they have their own fair of body issues (rather, big issues). For an example: acne, big feet, tummy or nose, sweating problem, bad breath or they feel ugly etc BUT, all the people who are expiriencing what I have stated above always get the benefit of the doubt before being judged because of their slim exterior frame.

 

Good thing is that, I liberated myself from the chains of SELF LOATHING, I love every bit of my thick skin and I definately celebrate my thick curves 24/7. I hope when you read this post you will get inspired to love yourself more regardless of any issue you have with yourself.

 

So, I took up my friend's challenge and I think I did great because I AM BEAUTIFUL and FABULOUS. Moreover, this denim peplum look on me is on fire :) It is really SICKENING, big time..... 

 

Whats your take?? Yay or Nay???? 

Shorts, peplum top, headband and earings: MrPrice, Stalkings: Asos, Shoes: Aldo, Watch: Guess 

 

 

Stay positive and fabulous ladies, until next time. Cheers!!!!

 

Tulz :)

MODEL, SPOTTED!!!!!

A month ago I was spotted in an African-Women-Dinner-Dance-Australia event by a model scout a.k.a. coordinator for Africa Konnect. She approached me asking if ever I wanted to join their team of models for their upcoming fashion show. I must say I was gobsmacked as I never really thought I could be ever be a model, let alone have people looking at me and thinking I am good enough to be one. After African-Women-Dinner-Dance-Australia I just had happy thoughts and became more curious as to how do plus size models normally look and what type of clothes do they showcase. I guess I was looking for something to associate myself with as I always SEE MYSELF FAT and always negative about it even though I am everyday fighting my struggles to stay healthy, positive and look fabulous. To cut the story short I should say, eversince I gave myself a second chance cause I am no longer doubting I am beautiful and that I have a lot to offer to women going through the same issues as me. Moreover, I have a beautiful family, partner and friends who love me dearly.

I hope who ever will be reading this post and going through the same struggles of self love will also realise that we are our own worst enemies because when one is happy with themselves that self love and confidence shines through and in such instances it becomes easy for other people to do the same to one. This is a real disease living within us plus size beings. I say NO to SELF LOATHING ... and YES to SELF LOVE. I am saying this aware how difficult it is to break the existing toxic habit. I am a living proof of that because as far as I can remember I have always had this LOVE/HATE relationship with myself. Many people would never agree with what I have just said because they know and see me as this POSITIVIE DIVA who loves herself so much regardless of weight and looks.

Now that I have tapped on this issue I am realising that I have always used fashionnable clothes as a weapon to make people look at me better and respect me. I should say I have got them fooled in many occassions to think I am happy whilst I was actually unhappy with myself for whatever reason. Its so unfortunate that sometimes in those instances I would not see anything beautiful about me and the clothes I'd be wearing. It is clear that the road to SELF FREEDOM & LOVE is never a short cut but its a possible one to take as long as one is willing to endure hicups the journey brings and continue fighting to stay positive.

I currently stay positive by going to the gym, eating healthy, getting out of my house, surround myself with positive people and take loads of pictures to reflect on each days activities. Id I suggest all of you to do the same. This blog is also meant to inspire all of you as im writing about my deepest personal issues but I prefer doing just that because this entire exercise ensures I stay positive and continue to love myself.

Ok, back to modelling news ... yesterday 17 November 2012 ... my day to strut on Africa Konnect runway came and was FANTASTIC so ill write up another post when I have pictures to show. Below I have attached the photo's of myself at the African-Women-Dinner-Dance-Australia .... where I was scouted as a model. Cheers for now ... Please stay positive and YES to SELF LOVE.

 

 This is the conception stage  of the entire outfit for the  African-Women-Dinner-Dance-Australia ... because I did not bring any traditional outfits from home South Africa I had no choice but to rock the beads accesories I have in my closet. To do that I had to think of the way that could be classy and stylish.  

 The headgear bead is actually a necklace but decided to wore it around my head to spice up my outfit and the fact that I had this funky haircut  a girl did what had to be done to look good. This plan really worked and many people complemented me on that evening.

 Side view of my cut and the headgear

 Front view of my beautiful cute face 

 Side view of my haircut and headgear bead

 Me and my close friends from Rwanda

 Best Friend Nadine Shema

 Are you kidding me, the event was African-Women-Dinner-Dance-Australia ...Ladies had to dance!!

 On the dance floor with my other lovely African Australian ladies.

This is howI looked overall. Had no camera to take pictures but when you have good friends that is nothing to worry about. Bought the dress ($120) and Shoes ($70) at Myers it is a Yarra Trail. Bag thrifted from Vinnies for $5 and Beads mix from home and from Lovisa .... Hope you have enjoyed this post :)

 

Please leave behind comment/feedback... id like to hear from you as well. Stay positive people. Until next time. Cheers ...

 

 

"MELBOURNE CUP"

Its that time of the year tomorrow - the *Melbourne Cup* .... this is an important event in Australia for horse racing. It is hosted every first tuesday of November annually. Ladies have been pasing up today trying to ensemble outfits last minute for tomorrow. What would be your ultimate derby outfit if you were to attend this big horse racing tomorrow??? Remember, its a day to show off whether with a bag, hat, dress, shoes or all: as there will be an best outfit chosen at the end of the day. So, what would you have worn or what makes the best "Race Horse Outfit"?????